The Mask You Live In

Recently I came across this article titled, The One Thing All Men Feel But Never Admit.

After having taken classes in the Women, Gender, and Sexuality Department, watched Tough Guise by Jackson Katz, watched Miss Representation by Jennifer Siebel Newsom, and actually heard Jackson Katz speak at my school, I realized the importance of the overwhelming social issues surrounding gender roles and gender scripts.

The Mask You Live In is a new documentary exploring the ways in which society’s definition of masculinity harms both men and women.


Masculinity is framed as anti-femininity, and in being so, part of being masculine is to devalue traditionally feminine qualities such as empathy, lovingness, helpfulness, ability to cry, and vulnerability. When devaluing feminine qualities and women is part of being masculine, there is no wonder why violence against women is so prevalent (though this term does not include violence done against men, those who identify as LGBTQIA, children, etc.). “Man up,” “Grow some balls,” “Don’t be a pussy,” are common phrases young boys and adult men hear when they act out of the Man Box (a concept brought up by Michael Kimmel). The anxiety of men acting “like girls” is palpable in any social interaction. What is this fear? Why is our society drenched in it? Why are we so afraid of men being like women?

As someone who cares deeply about sexual and relationship violence and its normalization in the media, I cannot wait to view The Mask You Live In. You can find the trailer in link to the article at the top of this post.



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  1. V. Lee

     /  July 15, 2013

    I am SO excited for this!

  1. Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity | Feminists of Westminster Unite

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